Not marrying anytime soon...

DreamsLast · 01-19-2007, 01:52 AM

News From Contact Music (but this isn't news to us!!)

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JEWEL REFUSES TO MARRY BOYFRIEND

Pop singer JEWEL refuses to marry her boyfriend TY MURRAY until they do more work to fix the problems they have in their relationship. The 32-year-old is wary about walking down the aisle because she has seen so many other marriages around her fail. She explains, "We've had so many friends get married and divorced in the eight years we've been together. "I think if we had kids, we'd get married. But I still have more work to do. "I don't want to be selfish and drag kids through too much!"
19/01/2007 02:05

Source:http://contactmusic.com/news.nsf/art...friend_1019491

*On a personal note, I'd like to add that I think what also contributes to her being a bit marriage-shy is the huge impact her own parents' divorce had on her. (But of course, they don't mention that in this article.) If you've read CDTD you'll understand a bit more. I think the title of this article alone is so misleading and even intended to make Jewel look bad (ie.Jewel REFUSES to marry??). I think deep down she probably does want to get married at some point, but like she said she wants to work on the relationship before taking that step. I think she still believes in it, she's simply taking her time. I agree; what's the big rush anyway??

last_dance_rodeo · 01-19-2007, 03:22 AM

hey they seem to be doing fairly well right now as it is anyway who needs marriage?

Little Bird · 01-19-2007, 10:49 AM

That's a very mature and wise way to be and I agree with her. Until she feels completely ready and knows it is definitely the right thing to do, then she shouldn't just marry for the sake of marrying.

My parents split up when I was 10. It was a very tough marraige and also a very tough split on everyone. It has left lasting impacts but fortunately, I know marraiges do work and so my own experience with my parents didn't tarnish my feelings on marraige. Though I do believe it made more appreciative of the idea and more cautious about making that step myself.

I think Jewel's parental experiences were very different to mine though.

ItBeThatWay27 · 01-19-2007, 12:12 PM

I am wondering what kinds of problems they had. That article makes it sound bad, but it probly isn't as bad as it is making it out to be.

ROBARE · 01-22-2007, 01:06 PM

How does that saying go, You give them the ring you'll end up getting the finger! You meet the right person you'll know then!Your soul mate not play mate.People change every few years and so does the relationships.

JewelWiki · 01-22-2007, 05:16 PM

I still have a chance!

Little Bird · 01-22-2007, 06:08 PM

Well they did split up briefly in 2003. It was never fully revealed why but they stayed friends throughout the split and then eventually got back together soon after. You don't split up for no reason. They were together 5 years at the time. They're now together more than 8. THey're clearly in no rush and I think every relationship has it's problems. I just think Jewel is being cautious.

Click here for an old news link

last_dance_rodeo · 01-22-2007, 07:13 PM

Hmm I didn't know they split up. You learn something new everyday

nikos_ · 01-22-2007, 10:06 PM

Marrying is for the paper stuff, legal stuff, religions etc....

The real love no needs a piece of paper... just that. !!!!!!!!!!!

Little Bird · 01-22-2007, 10:50 PM

You're absolutely right nikos!!

Little Bird · 01-22-2007, 11:07 PM

Just came across this. Jewel was asked about a large ring on her finger and possible wedding plans. She reiterates a possibility of children. She was 27 at the time

Quote:

In a February 2002 interview with the Associated Press, then-27 year-old singer Jewel Kilcher (usually known by just her first name), participated in the following dialogue with the reporter.

Question: You've got a big ring on your finger. Do you have some marriage plans?

Kilcher: No -- wrong finger! ... I'd like a family probably one day, but ... I don't feel like an adult quite yet.

Source

ItBeThatWay27 · 01-22-2007, 11:34 PM

marriage is just a sign of commitment, that you are commited and devoted to one another. People try to make it sound so bad now a days but thats only b/c so many people mess it up and take it back. As if it's something you can just return to Wal-Mart if you don't like it... my theory is just do what you want to do, if you want to be promiscuous, then be that. If you want to commit yourself to one person forever, then get married. If you just want to be casual w/ relationships, then be casual. Is it that complicated?

*I have to add my opinion on gay marriage here b/c I don't want to upset anyone w/ my support of marriage. Gay marriage activists usually get mad when straight people support marriage, but I don't know why.... I support MARRIAGE, gay or straight. I think if those closed-minded-straight people think gay's shouldn't get married, then they shouldn't get married either. I mean, if you are protesting abortion, would you have an abortion? Or protesting eating meat? Would you eat a cheeseburger while you protest? It's weird to me. I just think everyone should be able to get married. And that's all I have to say about that

last_dance_rodeo · 01-22-2007, 11:49 PM

I like Jewel's quote. I'm 22 and I don't feel like an adult either. I used to feel kind of wierd about it but if Jewel was 27 and she said that I don't feel wierd at all.

DreamsLast · 01-23-2007, 04:13 AM

I still feel like a kid at 30. Maybe that's why I haven't had any kids of my own yet. I still feel like a kid myself!! That whole having kids thing is scary to me...

last_dance_rodeo · 01-23-2007, 07:44 AM

this is sorta off topic but about the whole kids thing, do you think it's wierd that i sometimes think ofhaving a vasectomy? I know it would be kind of pointless because well I'm gay. But what if I did and then I regret it?

01-19-2007, 01:52 AM	#1
DreamsLast ~~Moderator~~ Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Florida, USA Posts: 1,635 Rep Power: 243	Not marrying anytime soon... News From Contact Music (but this isn't news to us!!) : JEWEL REFUSES TO MARRY BOYFRIEND Pop singer JEWEL refuses to marry her boyfriend TY MURRAY until they do more work to fix the problems they have in their relationship. The 32-year-old is wary about walking down the aisle because she has seen so many other marriages around her fail. She explains, "We've had so many friends get married and divorced in the eight years we've been together. "I think if we had kids, we'd get married. But I still have more work to do. "I don't want to be selfish and drag kids through too much!" 19/01/2007 02:05 Source:http://contactmusic.com/news.nsf/art...friend_1019491 *On a personal note, I'd like to add that I think what also contributes to her being a bit marriage-shy is the huge impact her own parents' divorce had on her. (But of course, they don't mention that in this article.) If you've read CDTD you'll understand a bit more. I think the title of this article alone is so misleading and even intended to make Jewel look bad (ie.Jewel REFUSES to marry??). I think deep down she probably does want to get married at some point, but like she said she wants to work on the relationship before taking that step. I think she still believes in it, she's simply taking her time. I agree; what's the big rush anyway?? __________________ "We are loved beyond our capacity to comprehend..." -Jewel Kilcher, Acoustic Goddess Of Song & Modern Day Troubador

01-19-2007, 03:22 AM	#2
last_dance_rodeo Temporarily Absent Mod Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: South Dakota Posts: 2,212 Rep Power: 262	hey they seem to be doing fairly well right now as it is anyway who needs marriage? __________________ Her face is moonworn and thin, she's been wishing on too many stars again.

01-19-2007, 10:49 AM	#3
Little Bird Administrator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Wicklow, Ireland Posts: 6,178 Rep Power: 10	That's a very mature and wise way to be and I agree with her. Until she feels completely ready and knows it is definitely the right thing to do, then she shouldn't just marry for the sake of marrying. My parents split up when I was 10. It was a very tough marraige and also a very tough split on everyone. It has left lasting impacts but fortunately, I know marraiges do work and so my own experience with my parents didn't tarnish my feelings on marraige. Though I do believe it made more appreciative of the idea and more cautious about making that step myself. I think Jewel's parental experiences were very different to mine though. __________________ In the end...only kindness matters MysteriousWisdom

01-19-2007, 12:12 PM	#4
ItBeThatWay27 Gary, 'Disposable-Hero' Join Date: May 2006 Location: Austin, Texas Posts: 2,242 Rep Power: 0	I am wondering what kinds of problems they had. That article makes it sound bad, but it probly isn't as bad as it is making it out to be. __________________ so close no matter how far couldn't be much more from the heart forever trusting who we are and nothing else matters

01-22-2007, 05:16 PM	#6
JewelWiki JKF Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Charlottesville, VA, USA Posts: 805 Rep Power: 0	I still have a chance! __________________ JewelWiki!

01-22-2007, 01:06 PM	#5
ROBARE JKF Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: lake FL Posts: 226 Rep Power: 238	How does that saying go, You give them the ring you'll end up getting the finger! You meet the right person you'll know then!Your soul mate not play mate.People change every few years and so does the relationships.

01-22-2007, 06:08 PM	#7
Little Bird Administrator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Wicklow, Ireland Posts: 6,178 Rep Power: 10	Well they did split up briefly in 2003. It was never fully revealed why but they stayed friends throughout the split and then eventually got back together soon after. You don't split up for no reason. They were together 5 years at the time. They're now together more than 8. THey're clearly in no rush and I think every relationship has it's problems. I just think Jewel is being cautious. Click here for an old news link __________________ In the end...only kindness matters MysteriousWisdom

01-22-2007, 07:13 PM	#8
last_dance_rodeo Temporarily Absent Mod Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: South Dakota Posts: 2,212 Rep Power: 262	Hmm I didn't know they split up. You learn something new everyday __________________ Her face is moonworn and thin, she's been wishing on too many stars again.

01-22-2007, 10:06 PM	#9
nikos_ Yes, Im Mr Brightside Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 102 Rep Power: 227	Marrying is for the paper stuff, legal stuff, religions etc.... The real love no needs a piece of paper... just that. !!!!!!!!!!! __________________ Im MR BRIGHTSIDE

01-22-2007, 10:50 PM	#10
Little Bird Administrator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Wicklow, Ireland Posts: 6,178 Rep Power: 10	You're absolutely right nikos!!

01-22-2007, 11:34 PM	#12
ItBeThatWay27 Gary, 'Disposable-Hero' Join Date: May 2006 Location: Austin, Texas Posts: 2,242 Rep Power: 0	marriage is just a sign of commitment, that you are commited and devoted to one another. People try to make it sound so bad now a days but thats only b/c so many people mess it up and take it back. As if it's something you can just return to Wal-Mart if you don't like it... my theory is just do what you want to do, if you want to be promiscuous, then be that. If you want to commit yourself to one person forever, then get married. If you just want to be casual w/ relationships, then be casual. Is it that complicated? I have to add my opinion on gay marriage here b/c I don't want to upset anyone w/ my support of marriage. Gay marriage activists usually get mad when straight people support marriage, but I don't know why.... I support MARRIAGE, gay or straight. I think if those closed-minded-straight people think gay's shouldn't get married, then they shouldn't get married either. I mean, if you are protesting abortion, would you have an abortion? Or protesting eating meat? Would you eat a cheeseburger while you protest? It's weird to me. I just think everyone should be able to get married. And that's all I have to say about that __________________ so close no matter how far couldn't be much more from the heart forever trusting who we are and nothing else matters Last edited by ItBeThatWay27; 01-22-2007 at 11:38 PM. Reason: add my 2 cents

01-22-2007, 11:49 PM	#13
last_dance_rodeo Temporarily Absent Mod Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: South Dakota Posts: 2,212 Rep Power: 262	I like Jewel's quote. I'm 22 and I don't feel like an adult either. I used to feel kind of wierd about it but if Jewel was 27 and she said that I don't feel wierd at all. __________________ Her face is moonworn and thin, she's been wishing on too many stars again.

01-23-2007, 04:13 AM	#14
DreamsLast ~~Moderator~~ Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Florida, USA Posts: 1,635 Rep Power: 243	I still feel like a kid at 30. Maybe that's why I haven't had any kids of my own yet. I still feel like a kid myself!! That whole having kids thing is scary to me... __________________ "We are loved beyond our capacity to comprehend..." -Jewel Kilcher, Acoustic Goddess Of Song & Modern Day Troubador

01-23-2007, 07:44 AM	#15
last_dance_rodeo Temporarily Absent Mod Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: South Dakota Posts: 2,212 Rep Power: 262	this is sorta off topic but about the whole kids thing, do you think it's wierd that i sometimes think ofhaving a vasectomy? I know it would be kind of pointless because well I'm gay. But what if I did and then I regret it? __________________ Her face is moonworn and thin, she's been wishing on too many stars again.